Confidence plays an important role in children’s mental health, learning and overall wellbeing. When children believe in themselves, they are more likely to try new things, manage challenges and build positive relationships with others.
However, many children experience moments of self-doubt. They may worry about making mistakes, comparing themselves to others or feeling like they are not “good enough”. Supporting children to develop confidence and self-esteem can help them feel more secure, resilient and ready to face challenges.
What is confidence in children?
Confidence is a child’s belief in their own abilities, choices and strengths. It does not mean feeling positive all the time or never experiencing worries. Instead, confidence helps children understand that they can overcome difficulties, learn from mistakes and keep going when things feel challenging.
Building confidence is a gradual process. It develops through positive experiences, encouragement and feeling supported by the adults around them.
Why is self-confidence important for children’s wellbeing?
A healthy level of confidence can support children’s emotional wellbeing by helping them:
- Feel more comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings
- Develop independence and problem-solving skills
- Build stronger friendships
- Cope better with challenges and change
- Recognise their own strengths and achievements
When children have low confidence, they may avoid trying new activities, worry about getting things wrong or be more critical of themselves.
How can adults help build children’s confidence?
Celebrate effort, not just achievements
Praising effort helps children understand that progress and perseverance matter. Instead of focusing only on the end result, recognise the steps they have taken and the courage it took to try.
Encourage positive self-talk
Children can be quick to focus on what they cannot do. Helping them notice their strengths and replace negative thoughts with kinder, more realistic ones can support a healthier mindset.
Create opportunities for success
Small achievements can make a big difference to confidence. Giving children opportunities to make choices, learn new skills and take on responsibilities helps them recognise what they are capable of.
Help children understand that mistakes are part of learning
Mistakes are not failures — they are opportunities to grow. Creating an environment where children feel safe to make mistakes helps them become more resilient and confident.
Building confidence through connection and support
Every child develops confidence at their own pace. Feeling listened to, valued and supported can make a powerful difference in helping children believe in themselves.
At The Wellbeing Crew, we support children and young people’s emotional wellbeing through creative, engaging and practical wellbeing programmes that help develop confidence, resilience and self-esteem.
Because when children believe in themselves, they are more able to discover what they can achieve.
